tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post2669607453087151482..comments2023-10-01T07:36:48.172-07:00Comments on The Belyoak Bunch: The Bad Newsshaunahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11742270945335370549noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-31691120506289373822007-09-08T08:46:00.000-07:002007-09-08T08:46:00.000-07:00Separation is never easy .. not for anyone... I do...Separation is never easy .. not for anyone... I don't have any wise words to share .. but I just to let you know I am here .. one of those "cyber friend" that will be here to listen to you ... (((((HUGS))))Liza on Mauihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03051821265972125935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-89328753131854090162007-09-07T18:13:00.000-07:002007-09-07T18:13:00.000-07:00I wanted to say dido to all previous comments. I ...I wanted to say dido to all previous comments. I love you shauna and I know you will be happy again...it is your nature. I can't remember and time in my life when I haven't looked up to you and nothing has changed about that. I am forever grateful that I have you as my big sister. Lots of love, jen<BR/>And don't forget to call if you ever need anything...I will do all I can to help out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-89429382566359119212007-09-07T16:53:00.000-07:002007-09-07T16:53:00.000-07:00You're all fabulous! Thanks so much for your kind...You're all fabulous! Thanks so much for your kind words of support. Wish you were all my neighbors, ladies!shaunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11742270945335370549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-84879733896916217252007-09-07T15:21:00.000-07:002007-09-07T15:21:00.000-07:00Oh, Shauna. I'm so sorry to hear this. I wish I ...Oh, Shauna. I'm so sorry to hear this. I wish I had words to make it better. <BR/><BR/>I think it's wonderful that you will not bash Hubs on the blog. With that perspective, I know you will be okay. In time.<BR/><BR/>Be sure you take care of yourself, too.<BR/><BR/>E-mail me anytime if you need a friend.Shauna Loves Chocolatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230467569621226082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-89475695711529725272007-09-07T09:03:00.000-07:002007-09-07T09:03:00.000-07:00Shauna, I am sorry that you are going through this...Shauna, <BR/>I am sorry that you are going through this hard time. Like others, I respect you for looking out for your kids and not bashing your hub, because that would just serve to hurt them. Especially since I am sure you have some choice words you could use. I will be thinking of you and praying for you.GustoBoneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06868732223452915490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-20181127321958869672007-09-06T21:13:00.000-07:002007-09-06T21:13:00.000-07:00Mom,This is from Kaleb. I sent this because I mis...Mom,<BR/><BR/>This is from Kaleb. I sent this because I miss you. Ummm. I ......ummm.....O.k. I love I wish you have good day tomorrow. I miss you so much, ummmm. Because I love you. Ummmm. Tell Zack and Leah I love them.I hope they will make good choices tomorrow. <BR/>Love,<BR/>Kaleb<BR/>Day 1 - Idaho Falls to Roy. Spend the night with Dad and Uncle Bills at Cousin Davids house. Tomorrow Roy to Los Angles.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-71922534545822307772007-09-06T19:07:00.000-07:002007-09-06T19:07:00.000-07:00OH MY GOSH!! YOU BLOGIN' GALS HAVE SUCH GREAT SUPP...OH MY GOSH!! YOU BLOGIN' GALS HAVE SUCH GREAT SUPPORT FOR EACH OTHER!! I HAVE WORRIED SO MUCH ABOUT MY DAUGHTER (AND NOT BEING CLOSE BY TO HELP HER IN HER TIME OF NEED HAS INCREASED MY CONCERN.) YOU ARE SO TOTALLY AWESOME. IT WOULD OF BEEN NICE TO HAVE THAT KIND OF SUPPORT WHEN I WENT THOUGH MY DIVORCE. LIFE CAN HAVE SOME MIGHTY HARD BUMPS BUT WITH FRIENDS LIKE THIS YOU CAN GET ON THAT SMOOTH ROAD AGAIN. AND SHAUNA YOU WILL BE HAPPY AGAIN, MORE THAN YOU KNOW. WITH ALL MY LOVE MOMAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-60641134591311105282007-09-06T13:53:00.000-07:002007-09-06T13:53:00.000-07:00I feel pretty sure that you are going to come out ...I feel pretty sure that you are going to come out the other side of this and be just fine. Not unscathed, but stronger to be sure. The fact that you still have your sense of humor, as shown in your last line, says a lot.Mrs. Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14044255357653198954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-67208057372536784152007-09-06T09:54:00.000-07:002007-09-06T09:54:00.000-07:00I am so very sorry. You are so wise and fair. I ...I am so very sorry. You are so wise and fair. I know you will handle it this dignity. <BR/><BR/>I was very close to separating from my husband this summer. This is something I haven't even revealed to some of my close friends. But I just wanted to let you know that I understand what you're going through, and am thinking about you. I am sure this is an incredibly difficult time. I am thinking of you.<BR/><BR/>Jane, P&B GirlsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-21568989360465878882007-09-05T21:56:00.000-07:002007-09-05T21:56:00.000-07:00I know we all in blogville don't really know each ...I know we all in blogville don't really know each other---with the exception of telling each other all of our deepest thoughts and emotions---but nevertheless I wish we could all gather around you and be there for you with the big things and the little things that will come. Take you out for a piece of pie when you are feeling low and babysit for you when you are feeling pooped out (no pun intended). Well, we may not be able to do that---but know that you have all of our support, in our own special bloggy way. You have truly entered our hearts!Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18019933420393340992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-42246918487571535862007-09-05T21:28:00.000-07:002007-09-05T21:28:00.000-07:00I really feel for you. I can't imagine what you'r...I really feel for you. I can't imagine what you're going through. Hang in there and do what you need to do to get through.Bananashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04765560968908933858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-10754480668512192572007-09-05T16:59:00.000-07:002007-09-05T16:59:00.000-07:00Shauna, It is funny how quickly your blogging budd...Shauna, <BR/>It is funny how quickly your blogging buddies seem to become boosom buddies. When I read on your blog a little while back that you had been going through some things that you would be blogging about in the future.. I didn't think it would be this. I admire your tact and respect for your husband. I admire your openness, and I hope you know how much I look up to your strength and motherliness. Wishes and blessings to you and yours.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18361831622684861059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-46325509445524878552007-09-05T14:26:00.000-07:002007-09-05T14:26:00.000-07:00I'm so sorry that you have to go through this.I'm so sorry that you have to go through this.Maude Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03669688074743095866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-23180419935978197662007-09-05T12:58:00.000-07:002007-09-05T12:58:00.000-07:00Oh Shauna, I'm so sorry. I know for me, sharing m...Oh Shauna, I'm so sorry. <BR/><BR/>I know for me, sharing my most private thoughts/feelings with complete strangers in the blogosphere has helped me tremendously. I hope this will help you, too.<BR/><BR/>Hugs to you.Jennifer https://www.blogger.com/profile/08191366421121919596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-38104859370712739452007-09-05T11:03:00.000-07:002007-09-05T11:03:00.000-07:00Shauna, our hearts and prayers go out to you, to y...Shauna, our hearts and prayers go out to you, to your Hub, and to your children. May the path that will bring happiness and peace for you all appear before you and may you all have the courage to walk it with grace and dignity. I agree with your friends who have commented here, you are a truly classy lady and your children will benefit from the "no bash" approach. We love you! If you ever need a weekend away, you are all welcome here - we have a new mattress in Sarah's room, so sleeping on her bed won't be torture, and the kids can camp out on Kaela's bunk or in the living room. Take care. We miss you.<BR/>MaryAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-74878422582484702332007-09-05T09:10:00.000-07:002007-09-05T09:10:00.000-07:00OH yeah, and as we have vomit here right now, I am...OH yeah, and as we have vomit here right now, I am hoping for poo for you :)erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12037675094496432805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-82812966317047891522007-09-05T09:09:00.000-07:002007-09-05T09:09:00.000-07:00OH Shauna-we love you. I really never expected yo...OH Shauna-we love you. I really never expected you to bash "the hub" here because in all the time I've known you, you never have...even when things were bad for so long. I also want to apologize for your brother (because, after all, he was your brother before he was my husband) and all of the totally inappropriate things he said (and will probably continue to say) when you were here. Just know that we (all) are here for you (we can just tape Jason's mouth shut) and are hoping for the best for you.erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12037675094496432805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-65359406143948805342007-09-05T07:59:00.000-07:002007-09-05T07:59:00.000-07:00As a person who has 6 kids, I can tell you - don't...As a person who has 6 kids, I can tell you - don't bother trying to blame any kid problems on what's going on. One, odds are they aren't related. I can't tell you how many times we've blamed a second-youngest's behavior on the new baby's coming; and then years later another sibling will act the same way (with no new baby excuse). I didn't write that very clearly - you can e-mail me if you want me to try again. Two, even if the separation is causing the behavior, it doesn't excuse it - you still have to deal with it. The kids will feel angry and confused, but there's nothing you can do about that but still expect the same from them as you always have. That makes them feel more secure, actually.<BR/><BR/>I know you must hate waking up each morning and finding yourself on this side of the Before/After divide - it will take a while to get used to it. And I do know a lot of couples who have separated and gotten back together.<BR/><BR/>I hate most marriage books. Most of them are really "How to make my spouse do what I want him to do" manuals. And that's the wrong approach. The one book I credit with saving my relationship with my husband (he never would have left me, we just would have had a lousy relationship all our lives) is "The Surrendered Wife" by Laura Doyle (not sure of author's last name). It is a poorly titled book - it sounds like you should become a doormat, but it isn't that at all. I cannot say enough about it. Buy it. It may not apply to you at all, but she had me and my attitude toward my husband and my feelings about marriage nailed. Now the things she said seem obvious to me, but back then I was clueless. Things weren't all my fault, obviously; but it showed me what things I could control and what I couldn't.<BR/><BR/>Good luck!Suburban Correspondenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11488916572135296650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-58250793043725092822007-09-05T05:27:00.000-07:002007-09-05T05:27:00.000-07:00I'm so sorry.I'm so sorry.Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07387168103798629268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-22319169108411245892007-09-05T05:21:00.000-07:002007-09-05T05:21:00.000-07:00(hugs) I totally respect you for your vow to not b...(hugs) I totally respect you for your vow to not bash the hubby. Without going into details, your children will be well served by this decision.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07690731008883628777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-26754470374777448632007-09-05T04:58:00.000-07:002007-09-05T04:58:00.000-07:00my thoughts and prayers are with you during this d...my thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. <BR/>I also admire your treatment for your husband, a true classy woman you are.justmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05081885076553861768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-80285091489644948822007-09-04T23:45:00.000-07:002007-09-04T23:45:00.000-07:00Oh Shauna~I am sorry. I'm sure this has all been ...Oh Shauna~I am sorry. I'm sure this has all been quite traumatic for you. HUGS. I love your mature attitude and if he does become ex-hub he won't have anything in writing his lawyer could use. My husband and I have always said we don't understand how people put their kids in the middle. Because let's face it, they're both your children and they're terrific. If you ever need an ear or anything......my email is on my blog and my phone number is just an email away.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Take care of yourself!!!Crazed Nitwithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09433413927453925851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-61944362917707046522007-09-04T21:02:00.000-07:002007-09-04T21:02:00.000-07:00I wish you lived here, I would have you and the ki...I wish you lived here, I would have you and the kids into the store for some comfort and R&R. There are toys for the kids and diet coke for the mommy. The kids can get lost in a puzzle and you can breathe for a few. I would love offer you some comfort, or a place to escape. I am respect your decision to not speak ill on your blog of the hub. I will pray, listen and be here for you. Marriage is not easy, we don't live in your shoes but I care and will be there either in person if you come to the Big Lew or on the blog, my blog or even in email. Hang in there pal. I am glad you shared. I shared something last week on my blog that was really hard and it helped. Hang in there dearie.Kristi Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02311382296639198817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-78265443603583565582007-09-04T20:13:00.000-07:002007-09-04T20:13:00.000-07:00I don't have any precious words of wisdom, but I c...I don't have any precious words of wisdom, but I certainly have tears in my eyes because you're one of the people I've "met" through blogging I wish were one of my real life neighbors.<BR/><BR/>Good for you for taking the high road. Another reason I knew I was right- you're awesome!<BR/><BR/>I really hope you get some sleep. And if you need something like Ambien to help you get it, there's no shame in that. <BR/><BR/>Thinking of you :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11657020.post-89777374977964307422007-09-04T19:57:00.000-07:002007-09-04T19:57:00.000-07:00Oh Shauna,I am so very sorry to hear this news. M...Oh Shauna,<BR/><BR/>I am so very sorry to hear this news. My heart aches for you and your family.<BR/><BR/>I have such respect for you in the way that you have chosen to share this. It really says a lot about your character.<BR/><BR/>Thinking of you...dear blogging buddy...hang in there ;)Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03349490924344452315noreply@blogger.com